Keep it to yourself - sympathy is the challenge on 365 cards today. You can't put a message on the front of the card, the image has to portray the sentiment - in this case sympathy.
I have used a tulip stamp that I got as part of a set from QVC and have not used so far. Kept it very simple and stamped with heritage lavender ink on a lavender card, then just added some black ribbon. The colours don't look too good as I have had to take it in artificial light and it looks like there is glitter - but there is NOT! it is the pearlesence of the card reflecting.
Update - here is the card taken in a better light and with a message added (couldn't resist!)